Things can get really scary when your boyfriend or girlfriend reveal they have herpes. It surely isn’t easy to leave or discontinue especially if you really don’t want to hurt their feelings. What if you two have a great chemistry and he/she has a great personality and you don’t want to let go? It certainly can be a bomb on you to learn that your partner has herpes as you will feel your whole world is crashing down.
Don’t panic, don’t take any decision in haste and don’t end the relationship right away. Your partner might be as freaked out as you are to hear the news. The truth is, there are millions of people out there who are infected with type 1 and type 2 Herpes. Some have the type where the mouth is infected while others have the type in which their private parts are infected. If you get physical with an infected person, Herpes can be transmitted. The worst thing is that there are 80% individuals who are infected with Herpes but they don’t really know about it. So, before you just end the relationship, question yourself, do you have Herpes too?
So what should you do after finding about the truth of Herpes in your boyfriend/girlfriend? Should you be dating someone with herpes? Have a look at some tips that might help:
- Herpes can be transmitted but it is not life threatening. He/she is the same person you fell in love with yesterday so it isn’t fair to shun them just because of Herpes.
- A good thing is that chances of transmitting Herpes to a partner can decrease by 73 percent if the infected person keeps on taking the suppressive medications regularly. Wearing protection during sexual intercourse can reduce the chances of transmission by 98% if the person is taking suppressive medication along.
- If it has been quite a long time since the person had Herpes, chances of outbreaks will be low. Usually, the first year of the infection is active in outbreaks. As time passes, the outbreaks reduce. You can avoid the transmission of the disease with mutual communication and respect.
- One important thing to mention here is that, if your partner has told you about Herpes, it is a sign that they are honest with you. What’s the guarantee that you will find an honest person like them again? They need your support, just comfort them and don’t let them feel you are going to end the relationship because of the disease even if you are freaking out on the inside.
Dating someone with herpes isn’t an unusual thing, there are lots of people out there who are in a successful long-term relationship with a partner infected with Herpes. Some of them are even married and they are living a happy life. Herpes diagnosis is not the end of the world, you just need to take care while you get physical. Mutual cooperation from both sides will be required to make the relationship a success.