Many of us don’t know what to do and where to go when it is revealed that the person you had been dating has herpes. Some say that if you are not ready to take any risks, then it is better to call off the relationship.
But what if you really like the one you are dating with? And what if they tell you about their problem at the beginning of the relationship? It is not written in any book to stop dating someone with herpes. If it is the beginning of the relationship, then you might not be sleeping with the person anytime soon. So, it won’t be a bad idea to do some research about herpes, its risk and whether or not you can enter into a long term relationship with the person.
Keep this thing in mind that there is a high risk you might be contacting someone with herpes because there are many people who themselves don’t know they are suffering from it. Even if you are planning to get physical when you are dating someone with herpes, you will be glad to know that there are ways through which you can reduce the risk of transmission. Common ways to avoid the transmission is to use condoms, avoid sexual activities during the outbreak and take regular suppressive therapy. Herpes is not a contagious disease and it is curable. And if a person is brave enough to tell you that they have been infected with herpes, it is an obvious sign that they are a loyal partner. So don’t just brush them off because of the virus.
Those, who are suffering from herpes, must consider it as their responsibility to tell their date about the infection. It is up to you to choose the right time to disclose but make sure it does not get too late. Just follow these rules:
- Do not wait until you both get physical
- Don’t not wait until you are about to get physical. In this case, the attraction might be too strong for you two to take a rational decision at that time.
Kissing, fondling or cuddling are safe, it not necessary that you tell your partner before that. Make sure you talk to your partner in a private location. You need not to rush, just leave some space and time in between so that your partner has room to think and take a decision accordingly. Be sure that you are confident and you accept your health condition.
If you are the infected one, you need to be prepare yourself for rejection. That’s because the person might get hasty in retreating after finding about genital herpes. Keep in mind the one who disdains you just because you have herpes is not worth while anyways. If you are dating the right person, he/she will take her time to find out more about the infection before dumping you straight. There are many people spread throughout the world who have been dating someone with herpes and they are totally protected. So, it is not wise to end the relationship up front.