Dating someone with herpes may sound like a social stigma, however, it is very important to understand that genital HSV is a common condition and about 20% of the U.S. adult population has herpes. As per the ‘Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’ one out of six people in the US in the age group of 14 to 49 years are diagnosed of genital herpes, caused by the HSV-2 infection. Most people do not even realize they have herpes before the break out of the blisters. Despite all the information and statistics dating a person with herpes needs a lot of sensitivity.
There can be two circumstances under which you may come to know about the partner’s infection. Firstly, the person has confessed in all honesty and informed you about the condition. Secondly, you have discovered it yourself in an intimate moment. In both the cases, you need to decide judiciously. Even if, you decide not to continue further, show some sensitivity in dealing with it. And, if you have decided to stand by the person you love come what may, here are some dating rules for you.
1. Get yourself tested: If your partner had confessed about the infection, it’s better that you get yourself tested too. Around 70 percent people don’t even know if they are infected with herpes too. And in case, you both are found positive on the virus, you can continue dating each other without any worries.
2. Ensure your partner is on medication: We all know, herpes is highly contagious and there’s no harm in taking precautions. Suppressive medication such as Valtrex and Acyclovir can reduce the chances of transmission to a great extent. Before getting imitate, make sure your partner is on daily medication.
3. Educate yourself about HSV: Don’t just jump into a conclusion but find information and educate yourself about herpes. This will help you to deal with your partner more sensibly.
4. Avoid getting physically intimate around outbreaks: Although, it’s very difficult to predict the outbreak of herpes, try and avoid sexual contact with your partner before, during and after it.
5. Wear condoms: Although, wearing condoms will not ensure protection from the infection completely, it will certainly reduce the chances of getting the virus to a great extent.
6. Lend an emotional support to your partner: Believe it or not, it takes immense courage to admit the herpes. If your partner has shown a remarkable character by admitting it, you too lend a support by listening and understanding your partner’s plight.
Since, you have decided to date the person infected with HSV, you must also know that there are only 3% of people who do not get the infection even after being in a relationship with a partner who has herpes. Therefore, be prepared to get the virus sooner or later. Take it as lightly as dating a person with a small skin condition. And, if by any chance, you are not serious about the person who has herpes, it’s better not to get close because getting any kind of infection just for fun makes no sense at all.